About us

Meet ChaoticSapphics

Two lesbians unpacking anxious avoidant cycles in queer love and life.

Our Story

Chaotic Sapphics started because we couldn’t find many spaces that spoke honestly about sapphic relationships without flattening them into stereotypes. Everything felt either tragic, overly sexualized, or wrapped in advice that didn’t really fit queer lives.

This project grew out of our own experiences, loving deeply, struggling with anxious and avoidant attachment patterns, craving closeness while fearing it at the same time, and trying to build a relationship that felt safer and more real. We wanted a place where those experiences could be talked about without shame, judgment, or pretending we had everything figured out.

Here, we write about sapphic love, attachment, intimacy, and real life as it actually happens. That includes relationships that feel chaotic, connections that slowly become steadier, and the everyday realities of being sapphic in a world that isn’t always welcoming or safe.

Chaotic Sapphics is rooted in a few simple values: honesty over perfection, curiosity over blame, and care over spectacle. We believe sapphics deserve stories about love that don’t revolve only around pain, and conversations about intimacy that aren’t reduced to performance or fantasy.

This space is for sapphics who feel deeply, love imperfectly, and are trying to understand themselves and each other a little better along the way.